Deanna After Dark

For working moms, work-life balance is hardly ever a tidy, color-coded chart. It feels more like juggling grocery bags, replying to work emails, reminding someone about a dentist appointment, and wondering why only you notice the overflowing trash.

I’m a mom to a teenager and three young adults, so I have been through snack emergencies, sports schedules, college deadlines, mood swings, forgotten permission slips, and that strange phase when everyone is hungry but no one knows what for. When I talk about balance, I do not mean doing everything perfectly. I mean creating a life that feels manageable, loving, and real.

The first thing I would tell any working mom is to stop thinking balance means giving every part of your life equal time every day. Real balance is about knowing what matters most right now. Some weeks, work needs more from you. Other weeks, your family does. And sometimes, you just need to sit in your car for five extra minutes before going inside. That counts, too.

One of the biggest changes for me was letting go of perfection and focusing on what matters most. When my kids were younger, I often felt like I was failing if the house was messy, dinner was basic, or I missed a school event. Now, with one teen and three grown kids, I can say this honestly: your kids do not need a perfect mom. They need you to be present. Being emotionally available matters more than having matching pillows or homemade muffins.

This means figuring out your non-negotiables. Choose a few things that keep your family grounded. Maybe it is eating dinner together a few times a week, not working on Saturday mornings, or always being there for a bedtime chat or a teen’s late-night talk that starts with “So, hypothetically…” These small rituals matter more than trying to do everything.

I also encourage working moms to set boundaries, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. Boundaries are not selfish – they protect you. Work will take as much as you give, and family needs can keep growing, too. If you do not set your own limits, others will do it for you. That might mean not answering emails after a certain time, not volunteering for every extra task, or letting your kids take on more responsibility. And yes, that includes letting them deal with the results of not listening when you said, “Put your lunch in the fridge.”

Here is another truth: do not do things for your kids that they can do themselves. As a mom of older kids, I can tell you that independence does not just show up at 18. It grows slowly, through chores, routines, accountability, and sometimes watching them load the dishwasher in a way that drives you crazy. But it is worth it. Work-life balance often gets better when moms stop being the family’s unpaid cruise director, house manager, therapist, chauffeur, and reminder app.

You need systems, not just good intentions. Things like a shared calendar, meal plan, Sunday reset, set laundry days, or a family group text can really help. Working moms often burn out because they carry too much mental load, not just too many tasks. Anything that moves a responsibility from your mind into a system is a gift to your future self.

And then there is guilt – the sidekick no working mom wants. Guilt tells you that you are not doing enough at work or at home, but it is not always telling the truth. I have learned to ask myself: Is this guilt helpful, or just old pressure resurfacing? Sometimes guilt means you need to make a change. More often, it just shows you care. Caring deeply is not the same as doing badly.

Take care of your own energy, too. Bubble baths and candles are nice, but I mean real self-care: getting enough sleep, eating regular meals, moving your body, keeping up with friends, finding quiet, laughing, and saying no before you are completely worn out. Your family loves you, but they might not notice you are running on empty until you are eating crackers over the sink late at night.

Remember, balance is not a place where everything is suddenly easy. It is something you keep adjusting. It means checking in with yourself and asking, “What needs more attention right now?” and “What can I let go of?” It is about giving yourself grace when things are messy. A good life comes from doing what matters, not doing it all.

You can be ambitious and nurturing. You can love your work and your family deeply. You can feel tired and grateful at the same time. That is not failure. That is motherhood with a full plate and a full heart.

And honestly, if everyone is fed, mostly wearing clean underwear, and knows they are loved, you are doing better than you think.

Start With A “Before Everyone Needs Me” Moment
Even just three to five minutes before your day starts can make a difference. Sit with your coffee, stretch, breathe, pray, write a quick journal entry, or just stare off into space like someone lost in thought over laundry.

Use “Habit Stacking”
Attach self-care to something already happening:

• take deep breaths while the coffee brews
• stretch while brushing teeth
• drink a full glass of water before checking your phone
• listen to a favorite song while unloading the dishwasher
• put lotion on your hands after washing dishes

Create A 10-Minute Reset
Set a timer and do one thing that makes you feel more human: shower, tidy one surface, sit outside, read a few pages, text a friend, or eat a snack that is not someone’s abandoned crust.

Make Food Easier On Future-You
Keep a few “mom fuel” options ready: boiled eggs, yogurt, cheese sticks, fruit, trail mix, hummus, wraps, or single-portion leftovers. Feeding yourself counts as self-care. Truly revolutionary, I know.

Take A Mini Movement Break
You do not need a full workout to feel better. Try five minutes of stretching, a quick walk around the block, squats while you wait for the microwave, or a kitchen dance party. As a bonus, it might even surprise the kids.

Protect One Small Boundary
Choose one thing you will not compromise on, like no phone for the first ten minutes after waking up, enjoying a quiet cup of coffee, having a 15-minute buffer before bed, or not answering non-urgent texts right away. Setting boundaries is a strong form of self-care.

Lower The Bar On Purpose
Some days, self-care is a bubble bath. Other days, it is brushing your teeth before noon and not losing your mind in the school pickup line. Both count.

Try Box Breathing
Breathe in for four counts, hold for four, exhale for four, and hold again for four. Repeat this three to five times. This helps before stressful moments, like homework time, bedtime, or when you hear “Mom?” for what feels like the 45th time.

Use The “Name It To Tame It” Method
Pause and label what you are feeling: “I’m overwhelmed,” “I’m overstimulated,” or “I’m frustrated.” Naming the emotion can create a little space between the feeling and your reaction.

Do A Quick Brain Dump
When your mind feels scattered, like having too many browser tabs open, write everything down. Then, choose just one to three things that really matter today and focus on those.

Practice The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique
Notice 5 things you see, 4 things you feel, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you taste. It helps bring your mind back to the present when stress starts to spiral.

Build Transition Rituals
Busy moms often move straight from work to dinner, then to dishes and bedtime, without a break. Try adding small transitions, like washing your hands slowly, stepping outside for five minutes, changing clothes, or playing a calming song before starting the next part of your day.

Use “Good Enough” Lists
Instead of one giant to-do list, make three categories: Must Do, Should Do, Can Wait.

Ask For Specific Help
Instead of “I need help,” try “Can you handle bath time tonight?” or “Can you pack lunches while I clean the kitchen?” Specific requests are easier for others to act on and harder for them to magically misunderstand.

Schedule Micro-Breaks Like Appointments
Taking a five-minute break after lunch, ten minutes after bedtime, or a quiet moment in the car before going inside can really help. That pause in the car can feel special, even if it is just you and some crumbs.

Morning: Drink water, take three deep breaths, and choose one priority.
Midday: Eat a protein-rich snack, step outside, and stretch for 5 minutes.
Evening: Do a quick brain dump, prep one thing for tomorrow, and take 10 minutes for yourself before bed.

The best self-care for a busy mom is not complicated. It is simple, repeatable, and gentle. She does not have to earn rest by wearing herself out first. She deserves care, too, even if the laundry pile seems to have taken over the house.

Postpartum fitness is not about “getting your body back.” It is about supporting your body while you care for your baby. Focus on building strength, energy, healing, and keeping your sanity. Matching leggings are definitely not required.

Before you start or increase exercise, talk to your OB, midwife, or pelvic floor physical therapist, especially if you had a C-section, tearing, heavy bleeding, pelvic pain, prolapse symptoms, or concerns about diastasis recti. ACOG recommends that healthy postpartum women aim for 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity per week, which can be split into shorter sessions. The CDC also says moderate activity is safe for healthy postpartum women during the first year after delivery.

Start Small And Count Every Bit Of Movement
You do not need a full workout to make it count. Ten minutes of stroller walking, five minutes of stretching, or doing squats while reheating your coffee all make a difference.

Try This Simple Weekly Target:

Week 1 Goal: Move for 5 to 10 minutes on most days.
Next Goal: Work up to 20-30 minutes as your body feels ready.
Long-Term Goal: Aim for about 150 minutes per week, divided however works best for your life.

Walking is the best exercise for postpartum recovery. It is free, baby-friendly, and you do not have to search for that missing sports bra.

Prioritize Pelvic Floor And Deep Core
Pelvic floor exercises and deep abdominal work are often more important than doing crunches or intense cardio right away. The NHS says that pelvic floor and deep stomach exercises help with post-pregnancy recovery, including abdominal separation, and recommends getting help if symptoms do not go away.

A Gentle Starter Routine:

1. 360 Breathing: Inhale into the ribs and belly, exhale slowly, gently lifting the pelvic floor.
2. Pelvic Floor Squeezes: Short squeezes and longer holds, fully relaxing between each one.
3. Heel Slides Or Marches: Lying on your back, move one leg at a time while keeping your core calm.
4. Glute Bridges: These are great for your hips, back, and the muscles you use to carry your baby all day.

Avoid traditional crunches, sit-ups, and planks at first if they cause doming, bulging, pain, leaking, or pressure.

Use “Snack Workouts”
Busy moms rarely have 45 minutes to spare. Sometimes, it is hard to even find two matching socks.

Try Movement Snacks:

Morning: 10 bodyweight squats while baby is on a play mat
Afternoon: 5-minute stroller walk
Evening: 8 wall push-ups, 8 glute bridges, 8 bird dogs
During Nap: stretch, breathe, or lie on the floor dramatically and call it recovery

Doing small workouts regularly is better than one big workout that leaves you sore for days.

Strength Train For Mom Life
Postpartum strength training should help you with daily tasks like lifting the car seat, carrying laundry, keeping good posture while nursing, and picking up toys without hurting your back.

Start With:

• squats to a chair
• wall or counter push-ups
• glute bridges
• bird dogs
• step-ups
• light rows with a resistance band

Keep your effort moderate. You should feel like you exercised, not like you just wrestled a bear in a parking lot.

Be Careful With High-Impact Moves
Running, jumping, burpees, and intense HIIT should wait until your pelvic floor and core are ready. If you notice leaking, heaviness, pelvic pressure, pain, more bleeding, incision discomfort, or abdominal doming, it is a sign to slow down.

A pelvic floor physical therapist can make a big difference. It is not because something is wrong with you, but because your body has just gone through a major event and deserves expert support.

Protect Sleep When Possible
Telling a new mom to sleep can seem impossible. Still, sleep affects recovery, hormones, hunger, and motivation. If workouts feel too hard, try gentle walking, stretching, or just rest. Rest is not laziness; it is part of your recovery.

A Realistic 10-Minute Postpartum Workout
After Medical Clearance, Try:

2 Minutes: easy marching or walking
1 Minute: 360 breathing
2 Minutes: chair squats
2 Minutes: wall push-ups
2 Minutes: glute bridges
1 Minute: gentle stretching

Done. Celebrate your effort. No glitter needed, because no one wants that mess.

Most Important Mindset
Your postpartum body is not just a “before” picture. It is strong, healing, and adapting, and it deserves patience. Postpartum fitness should help you feel more capable, not more judged.

Focus on being consistent, nourishing your body, and making progress, not being perfect. Some days your workout is a walk. On other days, it is pelvic floor breathing. Sometimes it is just carrying your baby, a diaper bag, and everything else. That all counts.

Postpartum depression is not a character flaw, not “bad mom energy,” and not your fault. It is a treatable health condition that can show up as sadness, anxiety, numbness, anger, guilt, intrusive thoughts, changes in sleep or appetite, or feeling disconnected from your baby. ACOG says postpartum depression is intense sadness, anxiety, or despair that can be treated with therapy and medication.

Safety comes first. If you have thoughts of hurting yourself, your baby, or anyone else, or if you feel unsafe, call 988 in the U.S. or your local emergency number right away. Do not stay alone with these thoughts. Give the baby to another safe adult, or place the baby safely in the crib, and get help immediately. The National Maternal Mental Health Hotline also offers free, confidential support 24/7 in English and Spanish at 1-833-TLC-MAMA by call or text.

For daily coping, focus on small survival steps instead of trying to change everything at once. New motherhood already brings enough laundry to feel overwhelming.

Tell one trusted person how you are really feeling today. You can say, “I’m not feeling like myself, and I need help. Can you sit with me, help with the baby, or help me call my doctor?” Depression often grows in silence, but support can break through it.

Reach out to your OB-GYN, midwife, primary care doctor, or therapist. Ask them about screening and treatment for postpartum depression. Treatment can include therapy, medication, support groups, better sleep, or a mix of these. NIMH says perinatal depression can be mild or severe, but it is treatable.

Treat sleep as something essential for your recovery. In postpartum life, it really is. Try to arrange one block of uninterrupted sleep if you can. Maybe your partner can take a feeding, a family member can visit, or a friend can hold the baby while you nap. You do not need a perfect sleep schedule; you just need a break from exhaustion.

Set your expectations low right now. Focus on feeding your baby, keeping your baby safe, staying hydrated, eating something, and getting some rest. That is enough for now. The housework can wait.

Try grounding techniques when your feelings become overwhelming. Put both feet on the floor, breathe out longer than you breathe in, and name five things you can see. Remind yourself: “This is a symptom. It feels awful, but it can pass. I need support, not shame.”

Seek out peer support. Postpartum Support International says you are not alone, you are not to blame, and with help, you will get better. They offer resources and support for postpartum mental health.

Here Is A Simple Way To Ask For Help:

I’m having a really hard time postpartum, and I do not feel like myself. I need help, not advice. Could you come over, check in on me, help with the baby, or help me call my doctor?

One more thing: intrusive thoughts can happen after having a baby and can be very scary, but having a frightening thought does not mean you want it to happen. You still deserve support, especially if these thoughts are frequent, upsetting, or hard to ignore.

You are not failing. You are recovering, adjusting, healing, and caring for your baby while your body and mind are going through big changes with very little rest. It is okay to ask for help. Getting help is part of the plan.

Talking with a 10-year-old after school should feel less like an interview and more like giving them a gentle place to relax after a busy day.

Kids at this age are becoming more independent, more aware of their friends, and more sensitive to being judged. The CDC says that kids ages 9 to 11 are building friendships, taking on responsibilities, and gaining confidence, but still need strong support and guidance from parents.

Start With Connection, Not Questions
Most kids need some time to unwind after school. Rather than asking, “How was your day?” right away, offer a snack, some quiet time, or a simple activity first. After a long day of classes and social challenges, a 10-year-old may not be ready to talk right away.

Try:

“Glad you are home. Want a snack first, then tell me one thing from today?”

Or:

“You seem tired. We do not have to talk right away. I’m here when you are ready.”

This shows your kid that you care, but you are not rushing them to talk.

Ask Specific, Low-Pressure Questions
When you ask, “How was school?” kids often just say “fine” because the question is too broad. Asking specific questions makes it easier for them to answer and remember details from their day.

Good Options:

“What was the best part of recess or lunch today?”

“Who did you sit with?”

“What was something funny, weird, or annoying that happened?”

“What was the hardest part of the day?”

“Did anyone need help today – you or someone else?”

The American Academy of Pediatrics emphasizes that listening is just as important as talking when building healthy communication with kids.

Use The “High, Low, And Hmm” Method
This method works well for talking about the school day because it helps kids see that both good and tough moments are normal.

Ask:

“What was your high today?”

“What was your low?”

“What is something you are still thinking about?”

Share your own answers too: “My high was finishing a project. My low was spilling coffee on myself like a majestic disaster.” Kids are more likely to open up when the conversation feels like a two-way exchange, not just a parent checking off questions.

Validate Before Problem-Solving
When your kid talks about a problem, try not to jump in and fix it right away. Your first response should help them feel understood.

Instead Of:

“Well, you should have told the teacher.”

Try:

“That sounds really frustrating.”

“I can see why that hurt your feelings.”

“That would have been hard for me, too.”

Validating your kid does not mean you agree with everything they say. It means you recognize their feelings. The AAP recommends that parents validate kids’ emotions and avoid downplaying their distress.

Ask Before Giving Advice
Asking a simple question can help prevent your kid from shutting down.

Try:

“Do you want me to just listen, help you think it through, or help you make a plan?”

This approach gives your kid some control. At age 10, kids can start practicing problem-solving, but they still need your calm support. Try to avoid sounding like you are saying, “I told you so.”

Keep Your Reaction Calm, Even When The Story Is Spicy
If your kid says, “Someone was mean to me,” or “I got in trouble,” you might feel a strong reaction. Try to keep your expression calm.

Say:

“Tell me what happened from the beginning.”

“What did you do next?”

“How did that feel?”

“What do you wish had happened?”

Kids are more likely to keep sharing difficult things when they know being honest will not lead to anger, lectures, or panic. Creating a nonjudgmental space is important for good parent-kid communication.

Watch For Patterns, Not Just One Rough Day
Having a bad day once in a while is normal. But if your kid often avoids school, has trouble sleeping, gets stomachaches, has sudden mood changes, pulls away from friends, gets lower grades, or cries a lot, it could be a sign of a bigger problem. If you notice these patterns, consider reaching out to a teacher, school counselor, doctor, or child mental health professional.

A Gentle Script:

“I have noticed school has seemed heavier lately. I’m not mad, and you are not in trouble. I want to understand what has been feeling hard.”

A Simple After-School Script
“Hey, love, I’m happy to see you. Let us get a snack first. Later, I want to hear about your highs, your lows, and anything weird that happened today. No pressure – I just like knowing your world.”

If your kid finally opens up while you are folding laundry, driving, or even grabbing a snack, that is a special moment for parents. Give them your full attention, even if you cannot stop what you are doing.

Starting homeschooling can feel overwhelming – like juggling a teacher’s manual, crayons, snack requests, and a kid asking if math is really required. You are not alone. Here are some practical, mom-tested tips to help you get started with confidence.

1. Start With Your “Why”
Before you buy a curriculum or make a color-coded schedule that looks perfect online, take a moment to ask yourself:

Why Are We Homeschooling?
Your reasons might include flexibility, faith, academic support, family time, travel, special needs, or a desire for a calmer learning environment. Knowing your “why” helps you make decisions when things get noisy, messy, or someone gets upset over handwriting – whether it is you, your kid, or both.

2. Do Not Rush Into The “Perfect” Curriculum
There is not a single perfect curriculum. The best one is the one that fits your kid, your family, your budget, and your current situation.

When Choosing A Curriculum, Consider:

Your Kid’s Learning Style:
Some kids love workbooks. Others need hands-on projects. Some like to move while learning, which can be cute – at least until spelling words are being shouted from under the table.

Your Teaching Style:
Do you want something scripted that tells you exactly what to say? Or do you prefer flexible lesson ideas you can adapt?

Your Family Rhythm:
A curriculum that needs three hours of prep every night probably will not work well if you have toddlers, a baby, a job, or laundry piling up everywhere.

Your Kid’s Grade Level And Ability:
Grade level is just a guide, not a strict rule. Many homeschooled kids work at different levels in different subjects, and that is completely normal.

A good way to start is with the basics: reading, writing, math, and some great read-alouds. Once you find your rhythm, you can add science, history, art, music, and other extras.

3. Keep Your Schedule Simple At First
You do not need to copy a traditional school day at home. Homeschooling often takes less time because you are not managing 25 kids, hallway changes, lunch lines, or constant lost shoes.

Try A Simple Rhythm Like:

Morning: bible/devotional or family read-aloud, math, language arts
Midday: lunch, outside time, chores
Afternoon: science, history, art, projects, independent reading, life skills

Short lessons work well for younger kids – about 10 to 20 minutes per subject, with breaks in between. Older kids can handle longer sessions, but they still need movement, snacks, and sometimes a little time to daydream.

4. Build Routines, Not Rigid Schedules
A routine says, “After breakfast, we do math.”
A rigid schedule means starting phonics at exactly 9:05, as if everything depends on it.

Choose routine.

Kids do best when they know what to expect, but homeschooling also needs flexibility. Some days will go smoothly. Other days, the dog might eat the craft supplies, and the toddler might color on the wall while you try to teach fractions.

A predictable routine helps everyone feel settled, but it should not make you feel stuck.

5. Use Time Blocks
Using time blocks can really help you stay calm and organized.

Try Dividing Your Day Into Chunks:

Focused Learning Time: core subjects
Independent Work Time: reading, copywork, practice pages
Together Time: read-alouds, experiments, history stories
Life Time: cooking, chores, errands, nature walks, appointments

Homeschooling is part of real life, not separate from it. Measuring ingredients, budgeting for groceries, writing thank-you notes, and folding laundry all count as learning. Even your laundry pile can be educational.

6. Make Learning Interactive
Kids learn best when they are actively involved.

Try These Interactive Strategies:

Hands-On Math:
Use blocks, snacks, measuring cups, coins, dice, or LEGO bricks. Fractions are easier to understand when pizza is part of the lesson.

Read-Aloud Discussions:
Pause and ask, “What do you think will happen next?” or “Would you have made the same choice?”

Nature Walks:
Collect leaves, identify birds, observe clouds, sketch flowers, or simply let kids notice the world around them.

Projects:
Build a model, cook a historical recipe, make a timeline, create a poster, act out a scene, or film a pretend news report.

Games:
Board games, card games, spelling races, scavenger hunts, memory games, and trivia can all reinforce learning.

Real-Life Learning:
Grocery shopping teaches budgeting. Cooking teaches fractions. Gardening teaches science. Cleaning teaches responsibility, though how well it works depends on everyone’s mood and whether snacks are available.

7. Do Not Compare Your Homeschool To Anyone Else’s
You might see someone online with a spotless schoolroom, matching baskets, kids in linen outfits, and a nature table that looks perfect.

Bless them.

Your homeschool might take place at the kitchen table with cereal bowls pushed aside. That is just fine. Your kids do not need everything to look perfect. They need connection, consistency, encouragement, and a mom who keeps showing up.

8. Learn Your State’s Homeschool Requirements
Before you get too far, check your local homeschool laws. Requirements can vary by state or country and may include registration, attendance tracking, testing, portfolios, or subject requirements.

This part is not exciting, but it matters. Think of it like the broccoli of homeschooling: necessary, manageable, and best handled early.

9. Plan Weekly, Not Yearly
Planning for a whole year sounds great until real life gets in the way. And it will.

Start with a weekly plan. Decide what you want to cover, then adjust as needed. Make room for illness, appointments, tough days, unexpected interests, and kids suddenly fascinated by volcanoes.

A simple weekly checklist often works better than a detailed daily plan.

For Example:

Math: 4 lessons
Reading: daily
Writing: 3 assignments
Science: 2 activities
History: 2 readings
Art/Music: 1–2 times
Outside Time: as often as possible

Checklists help you stay on track without making you feel behind early in the week.

10. Prioritize Connection Over Completion
Some days, the best homeschooling decision is to close the workbook and reconnect.

If your kid is frustrated, tired, overwhelmed, or melting down over long division, take a break. Go outside. Read on the couch. Make tea or cocoa. Try again later.

The relationship matters more than finishing page 45.

A calm kid learns better, and a calm mom teaches better. Snacks help everyone, too. That is just a fact.

11. Create A Simple Homeschool Space
You do not need a full classroom. A basket, shelf, cart, or cabinet can work beautifully.

Keep the basics nearby: pencils, crayons, scissors, glue, notebooks, math manipulatives, library books, flashcards, and the current curriculum.

The goal is not perfection. It is simply about finding a pencil before everyone gets frustrated.

12. Include Movement And Breaks
Kids are not meant to sit still all day. Honestly, neither are moms.

Use movement breaks between subjects: jumping jacks, dance songs, trampoline time, a walk around the block, stretching, animal walks, or “run to the fence and back.”

For kids who need to move, let them stand, bounce on an exercise ball, answer out loud, or do spelling words while hopping. Learning does not have to look traditional to be effective.

13. Use The Library Like Your Homeschool Sidekick
The library is a treasure chest for homeschoolers. It offers books, audiobooks, documentaries, story times, clubs, research help, and sometimes free events.

Choose a weekly library day. Let your kids pick books that interest them, even if one brings home 11 books about snakes and you wish you had not looked at the reptile section.

Interest-led reading builds curiosity.

14. Find Community
Homeschooling does not mean doing everything alone.

Look for co-ops, park days, field trip groups, online communities, library groups, church groups, or local homeschool meetups.

Community helps kids make friends and reminds moms they are not the only ones searching for ways to teach phonics without tears.

15. Give Yourself A Learning Curve
You are not just teaching your kids. You are learning how your family learns best.

The first year usually involves some trial and error. You might change the curriculum or adjust your schedule. You may find one kid loves narration while another acts like it is a chore.

That is normal.

Homeschooling is not about doing school perfectly at home. It is about building a learning life that fits your family.

Encouragement For The New Homeschool Mom
You do not have to be a certified teacher, a curriculum expert, or a walking encyclopedia. You need patience, curiosity, consistency, and the willingness to learn alongside your kids.

Some days will be wonderful. Some will be noisy. Some days, baking muffins will count as math, science, and emotional support.

And honestly? That counts too.

You can do this, Mama. Take it one lesson, one snack, one library book, and one deep breath at a time.